Suicide and the black community

Suicide is no joke and happens far more frequently than you know and many of us are willing to admit. In fact it was the tenth leading cause of death in 2015  behind cancer, diabetes and heart disease to name a few and has been in the top 10 for years. The aforementioned diseases are some of the most painful and debilitating illnesses that no one in their right mind would wish for. So what makes so many others inflict pain and harm upon themselves with the intention to die. In the wake of RnB singer Kehlani’s suicide attempt I was reminded of all the friends and family members  since high school who have confided in me at one point or another that they either tried or thought about killing themselves. Most of these confessions came from women and whats more all of them came from a place of not feeling loved and validated or feeling alone.

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Are your friendships really enemyships??

Almost every woman I meet has a story to tell about a failed friendship. Most often they have not one, but a few heartbreaking tales about the time they were betrayed, lied about, judged, deceived or made to feel used and unwanted. In all these stories, I have noticed one common thread. It always seems to be the other woman’s fault. Even I myself am guilty of sharing the story in a way that highlights me as the victim or minimises the hurtful things I did to the other person. What this tells me, is that clearly, none of us are examining the situation from an honest place and this is why we keep repeating the same mistakes thereby creating more enemyships than we do friendships.

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Maria Sharapova and the Media’s double standard  



Two days ago tennis star Maria Sharapova called a press conference where she announced that she had tested positive for the banned substance Meldonium at the Australian Open. During the conference she apologized for what she called a “huge mistake” which she then followed with a number of excuses, including that the drug she had been taking had only been banned on January 1st of 2016. She maintained that while the updated list of banned substances was emailed to her she failed to follow the link for the document. Her team, including her doctor who should be aware of the rules, failed to keep abreast of this very important detail. She admitted to have been taking the drug for 10 years prior to testing positive for the banned substance and claims she used it to treat an irregularity in her EKG, signs of diabetes and deficiency in magnesium.

Since her admission a number of details have come to light that questions the credibility of her excuses. Arguably, she has undeservedly been the highest paid tennis pro for 15 consecutive years, earning almost 300 million since she became a pro in 2001. From this, one would assume that she would have one of the best teams around to protect her legacy and massive fortune. To say that so many people dropped the ball in protecting her health and career is unbelievable to say the least. Continue reading