Social Media: The beast we’ve invited into our home

The late 1990’s saw that rise of the social media platform which changed forever the way we shared and received information, how relationships were formed and maintained and expanded our sphere of influence. The first recognizable social media site was 6 degrees established in 1997 then followed Myspace 2003, Facebook 2004 ,Youtube 2005 ,Twitter 2006 and finally Instagram in 2010. All are distinct in their own right but they all essentially serve the same purpose of helping people connect and become informed. Social Media has helped bridge geographical and cultural gaps and helped us form and maintain long distance contact with people we love. You can’t help but marvel at this great technological feat. However there is an underside to these sites that should not go unnoticed which is slowly gnawing at our social consciousness. It allows sociopaths largely unregulated access to our families and is resocializing us, negatively influencing the way we view ourselves and our communities.glossy-social-media-icons-vector-set_659063 Continue reading

Suicide and the black community

Suicide is no joke and happens far more frequently than you know and many of us are willing to admit. In fact it was the tenth leading cause of death in 2015  behind cancer, diabetes and heart disease to name a few and has been in the top 10 for years. The aforementioned diseases are some of the most painful and debilitating illnesses that no one in their right mind would wish for. So what makes so many others inflict pain and harm upon themselves with the intention to die. In the wake of RnB singer Kehlani’s suicide attempt I was reminded of all the friends and family members  since high school who have confided in me at one point or another that they either tried or thought about killing themselves. Most of these confessions came from women and whats more all of them came from a place of not feeling loved and validated or feeling alone.

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The Side Chick Negotiations/ Black bourgeoisie file

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I have a friend whom I have known for almost a decade and each time we meet I feel as if I’m in an undeclared sexual negotiation. Sometimes months, even years go by before we see each other despite regularly speaking on the phone. Whenever I see him I find myself party to the same conversation about his hunt for a side chick. Now you may be wondering why I would even entertain this man’s foolishness? But honestly, he’s a really nice guy (sexual issues aside) and he had never aggressively and openly expressed an interest in me. Instead, for the past few years he has chosen to drag me into these hypothetical conversations.

Here is some back ground: We are both from a culture believe it or not, where it is prevalent in fact normal for a man to have a wife and a girlfriend and juggle full families with them both for the rest of his life. Usually one or both women are aware and at least one is accepting. Continue reading